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The great Ram Dass said, “if you think you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family.”
For many of us our spiritual work, positive affirmations and zen-like state can quickly be disrupted by our family members. Sound familiar?
There are a few reasons for this~
~ Issues within our family often run on a deep, subconscious level; sometimes the issues run so deep that it is difficult to even comprehend where it all began. Being amongst family can easily trigger past memories or past events that can stir things up within the subconscious mind.
~ Family is ultimately there to teach us about unconditional love. Due to society and our egos, the blocks surrounding love that most of us carry around can be easily projected onto those we are nearest to. This often occurs in families and can manifest as feeling like you are never good enough or that certain family members have expectations for you that can never seem to be met.
~ We are highly connected to our families spiritually and energetically. In spirit form we all chose our family and agreed to work with the issues and dynamics that were destined to present themselves on our life path. Often families are souls that you have strong connections with from past lives and this adds to the weight and effect of their energy during times spent together and in general.
Here are some tips to make conversations between family members easier ~
~ Prepare yourself beforehand so you are spiritually and emotionally secure. If there is a certain family member that always push your buttons, or just being around your family seems to cause you stress, it may help to recite mantras and cleanse your aura or energy with sage. Anything you can do to raise your vibration and keep your energy positive and light will aid you. It may also be beneficial to visualise ahead of time your family gathering going smoothly and beautifully and putting good vibes out there before the event.
~Mantras. You may want to create a little plan or have a mantra ready to go if you find yourself confronted or triggered by a certain family member.
~Family issues run so deep that sometimes it is better to just let them go. While some analysis and reflection is good, eventually you have to learn to accept things just as they are. Sometimes it is really through accepting and unconditionally loving your family that true healing and awareness can start and you can begin feeling at peace in their presence.
~Some people don’t want to understand and can’t understand and that is ok. Sometimes things are better left unsaid. This doesn’t mean that you need to lie or hide who you are behind a mask, but leaving out certain details with family members who you know are not going to understand or be understanding can help keep things peaceful and can make things feel less stressful and agitated.
~It may also be helpful to remember that everyone is just doing the best they can at their level of consciousness.
~Know yourself. If you find yourself getting triggered or upset with comments made by a family member, try your best to stay neutral and keep your vibration positive and loving. Don’t be tempted to then fight back or get angry, you know in your heart what is true and you don’t need to affirm yourself to others. You know yourself.
~Take a deep breath. Focus on either changing or leaving the conversation altogether. If you do feel the need to put your foot down, try to assert yourself with calmness and without being defensive.
~Judgments. When you judge others for their judgements or respond with aggressive energy, you are further deepening the trigger points. Even if you can’t respond with loving kindness completely, the intention to try can make a profound difference.
Feel free to let us know below any ways you deal with conversations within your family..