The Human Family Crash Course Series {10} ~ Angels {9} ~ Healing Your Inner Child

Welcome fellow souls to «The Human Family Crash Course Series», a project collaborated by empress2inspire.blog and dios-raw.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our ninth topic is focused on «Grounding». Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

“The most sophisticated people I know – inside they are all children.” ~ Jim Henson

“Let us listen to the needs of our inner child that is being tamed and imprisoned by the rules of a grown-up world.” ~ Erik Pevernagie

I hear you ask “What is inner child work?” Inner-child work is a transformative tool for healing from psychological trauma, dysfunctional patterns, and self-harming behaviours. The inner-child is not a literal child, it is a metaphorical “little you”. The inner-child part of your psyche that is still childlike, innocent, and full of wonder. World-renowned psychologist Carl Jung originated the “Divine Child” archetype, while Art therapist Lucia Capacchione initiated the movement toward  “reparenting” our inner-child in the 1970s. Family Systems Therapist Virginia Satir was known to conduct “parts parties” in her group sessions, which involved having each individual call forth their own inner-archetypes ranging from the inner-child, the mother, the judge, the fool and so on. She recognized that human beings are multi-dimensional and discovered that by working with and integrating all of our unique parts, we can heal and deepen in self-awareness.

By connecting with our inner-child, we gain access to wisdom in our unhealed wounds, and the needs that may not have been met when we were actually children. Then, “reparenting” becomes the process of meeting those needs and practicing self-care so we can operate in the world as happy, functional adults.

Susan Anderson, the author of “the Journey from Abandonment to Healing” elucidates the layers of inner-child work in 3 parts – the Inner-Child, the Outer-Child and the Adult Self. 

Inner-Child

The “little you” – tender, emotional. Your inner-child is the innocent part of you, this is all about feelings and your primal needs.

~Vulnerable and innocent

~Deep feeling and sensitivity

~Curious, creative and playful

~Craves love, recognition, and validation

~Desires connection and safety

~Open-minded

~Total in expression – be it anger, sadness, joy

Outer-Child

Responsible for self-defeating behaviours, self-sabotage. The outer child responds to the inner-child and can over-protect by acting out.

~Self-defeating behaviours.

~Loss of control over behaviour and reactions.

~Uncalibrated in the expression of anger.

~Impatient and impulsive.

~Self-centered and focused on having needs met.

~Sabotages your inner-growth and fights change.

~Over-protects inner-child by pushing love away.

Wounded Inner-Child

~Reaction to emotional or psychological neglect.

~A deep-seated belief that you are broken.

~Fear of abandonment and loss of love.

~Insecure and low-self esteem.

~Loss of self in an attempt to gain approval from others.

~Fearful of setting boundaries or saying “no”.

~Seeking instant-gratification through substances, shopping, distraction, and procrastination.

Integrated Adult

When a healthy dialogue has formed between inner-child {“little me”} and adult self.

~Connected to body sensations and emotions.

~Can identify and clearly communicate emotions.

~Able to identify needs and make requests without anger or over-reaction.

~Remains true to self even in conflict.

~Self-honoring and able to set boundaries.

~Gives space to inner-child to have big feelings without shutting them down.

~Practices self-love and self-care.

~Continously working on transforming the thought patterns that had become a habit and re-train the brain into immediately loving your inner child as a natural instinct.

How to Connect to Your Inner-Child

~Body-scan, tune into your physical sensations. Connecting to your inner child requires that you go inward, rather than seeking distraction in times of emotional intensity and turbulence.

~Close your eyes and visualize “little you”, form a dialogue. Ask questions like “what are you feeling, what do you need right now?”

~Draw a picture, paint, or make art that reflects your inner-child.

~Write a letter to your inner-child.

~Use mantras such as “you’re safe”, and “I am here to take care of you”.

~Practice setting boundaries and building healthy routines.

~Practice self-care and take care of yourself as if you are your own parent, this is re-parenting. 

~Take a moment to feel your feelings, and then take action when you are calm, grounded and stable. Feet on the ground.

I’ll love you and leave you with this following quote, let us know how you love and re-parent your inner child below! 

“Everyone is born creative; everyone is given a box of crayons in kidergarten. Then wen you hit puberty they take te crayons away and replace them with dry, uninspiring books on agebra, history, ect. Being suddenly hit years later with the ‘creative bug’ is just a wee voice telling you, ‘I’d like my crayons back, please.” ~ Hugh MacLeod

~Amber {DiosRaw}

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