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The Human Family Community Open Threads {102} ~ What Brings Friends Closer?

Welcome to “The Human Family Community Open Threads,” a project open for anyone who would like to express their feelings, make friends or talk about anything; if you feel suicidal, depressed, anxious or lonely during these times this project is here for you. Feel free to leave a comment below and connect, let’s start a conversation. No judgement, we don’t know until we walk in someone else’s shoes..

~DiosRaw, 10/07/21

The Human Family Community Open Threads {68} ~ Do You Know About Your Past/Future Lives?

Welcome to “The Human Family Community Open Threads,” a project open for anyone who would like to express their feelings, make friends or talk about anything; if you feel suicidal, depressed, anxious or lonely during these times this project is here for you. Feel free to leave a comment below and connect, let’s start a conversation. No judgement, we don’t know until we walk in someone else’s shoes..

~DiosRaw, 25/05/21

The Human Family Crash Course Series {5} ~ Communication {9} ~ How Ego Reflects In Our Communication

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our fifth topic is focused on «Communication.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, “What else could this mean?” ~ Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes it can feel as we are in an ego minefield, a battle of the egos bouncing off of each other with beliefs and subconscious traumas reflecting off of eachother’s self-created identities.

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” ~ Ernest Hemingway

What Is Ego?

The ego is the mind’s identity of our own making, an identity that is false.
We are more than just the mind and the ego. Taking all the beliefs of what we are, beliefs about our personality, talents, and abilities, we have the structure of our ego. These talents, abilities, and portions of our personality will be attributes of our skills, but the mental construct of our “self” is artificial. This description might seem as if the ego is a static thing, yet it is an active and dynamic part of our personalities, playing a dominating role in creating emotional plays and dramas in the movie of our lives.

When we have thoughts about our self that we agree with we construct a self-image within our self-awareness. The kinds of thoughts that contribute to the structure are ~

~”I’m not good at making friends.”
~”I am intelligent.”
~”My mother thinks I am a failure.”
~”Nobody likes me.”
~”I am more aware than you.”
~”I have longer meditation sessions therefore I am more awake than you.”

The ego hides behind the “I” and “me” in those thoughts and statements about our identity. The ego can get in the way of having clear dialogue with others, it can ~

~Push people away from you
~Stop you from growing.
~Block love from coming into your life.
~Kill your happiness.
~Make you critical and irrational.

Gaining control of your ego is the best thing that you can do for yourself or else it will continue getting in the way of your relationships, your career, and your life.

How To Gain Awareness Of The Ego

It can be hard to see, because the ego shadows behind opinions that appear true, our attachment to the descriptions of our identity, and because we haven’t practiced looking.

You can get a glimpse of the ego by being aware of certain thoughts, similar to those listed above. The easier way to spot the ego is by the track of emotional reactions it leaves behind: Anger at a loved one, a need to be right, a feeling of insecurity in certain situations, feelings of jealousy that are unexplained, the need to impress someone, and so on. These emotions can be attributed to the false beliefs that comprise the ego. When first beginning to spot the ego, it is easier to see the symptoms of emotions and drama, rather than the ego that caused it.

Letting Go of the Ego

Because of its multitude of aspects, it’s not practical to think that you can dissolve all of the ego at once. Much like a field that is overgrown, you don’t just lift the debris and throw it away – you cut off manageable pieces as you go along. The same approach is effective with letting go of the false beliefs that make up the ego. You begin by detaching from individual thoughts that reinforce it, then let go of beliefs, separating yourself from the false identity of your ego. There are many websites, YouTube channels and spiritual practices you can involve yourself in to learn more about this by taking a browse through cyberspace.

Feel free to let us know your thoughts on the ego and how it reflects in our communication below..

~Amber {DiosRaw}

The Human Family Community Open Threads {65} ~ Would You Have A Psychedelic Experience?

Welcome to “The Human Family Community Open Threads,” a project open for anyone who would like to express their feelings, make friends or talk about anything; if you feel suicidal, depressed, anxious or lonely during these times this project is here for you. Feel free to leave a comment below and connect, let’s start a conversation. No judgement, we don’t know until we walk in someone else’s shoes..

~DiosRaw, 22/05/21

The Human Family Crash Course Series {5} ~ Communication {8} ~ How To Stop Your Emotional Brain Taking Over

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our fifth topic is focused on «Communication.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

Within one’s lives, the individuals belonging to various age groups, categories and backgrounds experience positive as well as negative emotions. Happiness is regarded as a positive emotion, whereas, the psychological problems of anger, frustration, stress, depression, anxiety, trauma, and pride are regarded as negative emotions. When these feelings impose barriers within the course of implementation of communication processes, it is regarded as positive emotional barriers and negative emotional barriers. The positive emotional barriers are happiness and negative emotional barriers are anger, frustration, stress, depression, anxiety, trauma, and pride. The individuals need to be well-aware in terms of methods, approaches and strategies, which are necessary in overcoming emotional barriers. When the individuals are pursuing higher education or training programs or are engaged in employment opportunities in reputed organizations, they are well-aware that when they need to communicate with their instructors, supervisors, or employers, they need to depict decency and exercise control on emotional barriers. On the other hand, when communication takes place in an informal manner among fellow students or colleagues, then in some cases, emotional barriers may take place. But the individuals need to ensure that they communicate with each other happily and should not let the psychological problems of anger, frustration, stress, depression, anxiety, trauma, and pride impede the communication processes.

It is of utmost significance for the individuals to overcome emotional barriers in effective communication. The reason being, when they will generate awareness in terms of measures, which are necessary in overcoming emotional barriers to effective communication, they will carry out this task in a well-organized manner. It is necessary for the individuals to augment their understanding in terms of ways to keep a healthy mind-set. When the mind-sets of the individuals are healthy, they are able to overcome emotional barriers as well as carry out their tasks and functions in a satisfactory manner. The measures to overcome emotional barriers in effective communication and in implementing one’s tasks and activities in an appropriate manner are stated as follows:

~ Develop Positive Thinking

Development of positive thinking is regarded as one of the important ways of augmenting one’s communication skills and forming sociable terms and relationships with others. When the individuals develop positive thinking, they will be able to alleviate the emotional barriers to effective communication. When the individuals are dedicated towards the pursuance of career goals, they need to develop positive thinking in terms of the individuals as well as the working environmental conditions. This will enable the individuals to develop motivation and interest towards the implementation of their job duties as well as in promoting effective communication with others. Therefore, it can be stated, development of positive thinking is one of the crucial measures of overcoming emotional barriers to effective communication.

~Get Engaged in Physical Activities

Getting in various types of physical activities is regarded as one of the indispensable ways of alleviating stress as well as other psychological problems of anxiety, depression, anger and frustration. The various types of physical activities that the individuals get engaged in are, walking, running, cycling, and so forth. It is recommended that for about 20 to 30 minutes, at least thrice a week, one should get engaged in physical activities. This measure will not only enable the individuals to maintain good health, but they are also able to alleviate psychological problems and promote effective communication with others. Therefore, it can be stated, getting engaged in physical activities is one of the important measures of overcoming emotional barriers to effective communication.

~ Consume Healthy and Nutritious Diet

Consumption of a healthy and nutritious diet is regarded to be of utmost significance for the individuals to stay healthy physically as well as psychologically. It is comprehensively understood that the diet that the individuals consume renders a significant contribution in framing their mind-sets. When the individuals consume a healthy and nutritious diet, they are not only able to maintain good health, but also are able to enhance their concentration on various tasks and activities. When they concentrate on tasks and functions, they will be able to overcome barriers to effective communication. Therefore, it can be stated, consuming a healthy and nutritious diet is one of the vital measures of overcoming emotional barriers to effective communication.

~ Mediate

In recent years, the technique of meditation has acquired significance to a major extent. This technique is prevalent since ancient times and it is comprehensively understood that when individuals put into operation this technique, they will develop a calm mind-set and learn to exercise control on psychological problems. Research has indicated, when the individuals are engaged in jobs, which are demanding and tedious, they in some cases feel work pressure, stress and anxiety, but when they practice meditation, they are not only able to alleviate the feelings of stress and anxiety, but also are able to promote healthy mind-sets. Therefore, it can be stated, meditating is regarded as one of the indispensable measures of overcoming emotional barriers to effective communication.

~ Maintain High Levels of Mental Activity

The individuals, belonging to various age groups, categories and backgrounds need to maintain high levels of mental activity. Maintaining high levels of mental activity is referred to having active mind-sets. In order to accomplish this purpose, the individuals need to get engaged in tasks and activities, which promotes active mind-sets and well-being. The individuals need to get engaged in tasks and activities, which would help them to stay healthy and active. When the individuals maintain high levels of mental activity, they are able to overcome the psychological problems of anger, frustration, stress, depression, anxiety, trauma and eliminate emotional barriers to effective communication. Therefore, maintaining high levels of mental activity is one of the crucial measures of overcoming emotional barriers to effective communication.

~ Do Brain Training

Brain training is referred to participating in tasks and activities, which enable the individuals to bring about improvements in analytical and problem solving skills (Roche, 2014). When the individuals are pursuing educational programs or are engaged in employment opportunities in organizations, they need to develop analytical and problem solving skills. When the individuals experience problems and are unable to provide solutions to them, they feel stressed and anxious. Hence, brain training will render a significant contribution in providing solutions to problems as well as in honing one’s analytical and problem solving skills. This will also contribute in overcoming emotional barriers to effective communication. Therefore, doing brain training is regarded as one of the fundamental measures of overcoming emotional barriers to effective communication.

The measures to overcome emotional barriers in effective communication and in implementing one’s tasks and activities in an appropriate manner are, get engaged in physical activities, consume healthy and nutritious diet, maintain good terms and relationships, develop positive thinking, acquire education and training, conduct research on regular basis, mediate, acquire healthcare and medical treatment, maintain high levels of mental activity and do brain training. Finally, it can be stated, when the individuals will put into operation the measures in a satisfactory manner, they will not only carry out communication in an appropriate manner, but also render a significant contribution in enriching their overall quality of lives.

~Garima {Empress2Inspire}

The Human Family Community Open Threads {57} ~ How Does Mental-Health Affect Your Life?

Welcome to “The Human Family Community Open Threads,” a project open for anyone who would like to express their feelings, make friends or talk about anything; if you feel suicidal, depressed, anxious or lonely during these times this project is here for you. Feel free to leave a comment below and connect, let’s start a conversation. No judgement, we don’t know until we walk in someone else’s shoes..

~DiosRaw, 14/05/21

The Human Family Crash Course Series {5} ~ Communication {6} ~ How To Stay Focused During Video Conferences

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our fifth topic is focused on «Communication.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

Remember a time when zoom calls were new. We used to get so excited about logging on, seeing people and having these work conversations over the internet. And three months later, well, they suck. I think most of my days are taken up by video conferencing. We are still working from home and for me sometimes there are 5-6 video conferencing calls a day back to back. It’s tough so I have recently spent a lot of time figuring out how I can survive these long conference calls.

Here’s how you can stay focused on engaging through these calls. I hope these tips can be helpful for all of you:

Tip 1: Make it easy to stay focused
Tip 2: Show the other person that you are focused. This will help you stay focused.
Tip 3: Be prepared for the challenging calls.

Tip 1: Make it easy to stay focused
I have realised that focus for me is a very big issue on days when I am tired or when I have too many calls back to back. So I started thinking about why this is happening and I realised that one of the first reasons was there were too many distractions. So obviously for me the first solution was to remove all of these distractions. I put my phone out of sight so that I can’t see that. I removed the clutter from my desk. I cleaned up my digital desktop. This might come handy especially when you are sharing your screen with people, it’s nice to have your desktop clean. Have only tabs which are relevant for the meeting opened in your browser. Position the documents which you are referring to or reading from in the centre so that it seems you are looking at your camera when you are talking. Sometimes when I am talking and I need to look at my notes, I move my notes on the top centre of my screen so that it looks like I am looking at the camera while I am also looking at the notes at the same time. Even if your environment is very quiet, having your earphones on while you are working can help you focus on your work. It can specially come handy when there are more than one people working out of the same home, just a wall apart. Always have a glass of water available with you and mute yourself on calls when you are trying to drink. Also pro-tip have a lid on that glass of water unless you want to spill water on your laptop. Trust me I am speaking from experience. Avoid drinking any carbonated soda or spring water on calls because those bubbles will come back in the form of a burp on the call. If you notice your eyes are getting tired, play around with different steups and brightness on your laptop.

Tip 2: Show the other person that you are focused. This will help you stay focused.
Eye contact is everything. Look into the camera when you are talking when you are being authoritative and when you want to make a point because that looks like you are looking at the other person. Make sure that your computer is actually lifted because if you are on a laptop. You want to make sure that your eye level is where the camera is and that’s why keeping few books under your laptop may be beneficial. Put a little sticky note at the top of your laptop near your camera with a smiley face so that it kind of reminds you to look at the person when you are looking there. Oftentimes when you watch people on the camera and they don’t really realise that you are watching them, the face changes look like something focused on beyond the screen and this makes a huge difference when it comes to communication. One of the things that we usually forget is that when we are on these calls, our heads are quite close to the cameras and so people can tell when you are looking over or looking at text messages on your phone. In real life you are never that close to people so can get away with a lot more. But when you are online, it is difficult to get away with it. The message it sends is that hey, I am not focusing on you so don’t have to focus on me and hence there is a disconnect. Think of the camera as a magnet and when you do look away and you will, like you are going to look at the clock to see what time it is or you are going to look down on your notes to refer something and that’s okay, just make an effort to keep going back at thee camera and to maintain your presence in the meeting. If you think your eyes and the camera have a magnetic connection then you will keep going back to that. Sometimes telling people why you are looking away is a way of being polite and letting them know that you are still a part of the conversation.

Tip 3: Be prepared for the challenging calls
We have all been in them. We have all survived to tell the tale. Not all our calls are created equal. Some are really challenging and some are a breeze. It is the way it is because you are interacting with different people on different topics in different scenarios all those kinds of things. It may be the way the person is speaking or maybe their internet connection is consistently bad and so it’s hard to hear them, whatever that is, you know while going in who those challenging counterparts are going to be. If you can anticipate that, that will help you lower your expectations and manage your stress better. Another way is to not forget your listening skills. I have some typical tips which might help like :

  • Set an intention. This means think about why you are listening and what the outcome might be for the conversation. What is the purpose of your listening. Are you listening to learn something new or you are listening to find out someone’s instructions, whatever it is, have that in mind.
  • Use confirmation language when you are listening. That is especially important in these calls because if you are on mute all the time, then people really do not know that you are listening. So unmute yourself, ask a question, use some reflective language, confirm something that they said just to let them know that you were listening.
  • Finally if you are totally distracted and someone is going on and on and on then practice shadowing. Shadowing is when you are listening to somebody and in your head you are repeating every single word they say. It’s like forced focus, you can’t think about anything else because you are using all of your energy to repeat what they said.

So those are three tips on how to stay focused during video conferencing. These endless video conference calls have to be made easy because it seems like we will be doing them for a long while now. Also don’t forget to give yourself breaks. Stand up, walk around the house, drink some water. Also remember that the other person on the call may be going through the same thing. They may also be tired of the calls one after the other. You can help them out by being focused and engaging.

If you have any additional tips on how to stay engaged, please do share in the comments section. We always love to hear from you. If there are any questions you would like us to address, please feel free to ask us and we will try to answer them as best as possible.

~Garima {Empress2Inspire}

The Human Family Communiy Open Threads {56} ~ How Would You Want To Be Remembered?

Welcome to “The Human Family Community Open Threads,” a project open for anyone who would like to express their feelings, make friends or talk about anything; if you feel suicidal, depressed, anxious or lonely during these times this project is here for you. Feel free to leave a comment below and connect, let’s start a conversation. No judgement, we don’t know until we walk in someone else’s shoes..

~DiosRaw, 13/05/21

The Human Family Community Open Threads {55} ~ Is Our History A Lie?

Welcome to “The Human Family Community Open Threads,” a project open for anyone who would like to express their feelings, make friends or talk about anything; if you feel suicidal, depressed, anxious or lonely during these times this project is here for you. Feel free to leave a comment below and connect, let’s start a conversation. No judgement, we don’t know until we walk in someone else’s shoes..

~DiosRaw, 12/05/21

The Human Family Community Open Threads {53} ~ What Do You Define As Family?

Welcome to “The Human Family Community Open Threads,” a project open for anyone who would like to express their feelings, make friends or talk about anything; if you feel suicidal, depressed, anxious or lonely during these times this project is here for you. Feel free to leave a comment below and connect, let’s start a conversation. No judgement, we don’t know until we walk in someone else’s shoes..

~DiosRaw, 10/05/21