I don’t think there are many fully selfless acts of kindness, even if thought doing so unconsciously, and I also don’t think this is a bad thing. To be self-motivated is a great attribute, and I think it’s great that even something as altruistic-seeming as donating to charity or aiding someone in someway rewards a person with dopamine-soaked surges of self-gratification. If people are doing good in the world for selfish reasons, they are still doing good and they get something they want out of it. However, I do believe there are genuine acts of unconditional kindness yet they may be rather rare. Just some thoughts.
I believe that we have free-will on this dimensional level and that we can make choices to navigate our destiny and that along our soul path we have milestones that can lead to a fate pre-determined by the soul, the pre-birth plans our souls created before this life.
Leadership is a set of skills that can be learned by training, perception, practice and experience over time. Leadership learning is a lifetime activity and good leaders seek out development opportunities that will help them learn new skills. However, I believe souls can be natural born leaders, bringing traits from past lives for example into this world.