We have lost the touch with who we truly are
Insecurities running the show
Flashing lights, temptations lighting up in false glow
Through a world that profits from pain and addiction
Self-loathing, hate and contradiction
Sneaky deals, snakes and manipulation
Upholding the ego consolidation
The world gifts us so much pain
Yet here we are not yet insane
Making gold out of breaking chains
This is the pure reminants of the human resilience of spirit
For one day we shall return to dust
Remembering who we truly are before we loose the scared trust.
“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” ~ Steve Maraboli
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Can rejection cause anxiety? Oh you better believe it, in fact it is very common. Not one person feels rejected by what their own soul has done to them. Rejection is brought about by people around you. You can love people yes, but you cannot depend on people to love you, even good people because they have bad days. Sometimes they go through difficult times. And when you live your life based on people’s love for you, you will be disappointed time and again.
Rejection makes you a reject. If you have been rejected in the past, you tend to put up a wall and people who know you always find you very defensive. Rejection triggers our inner fears and doubts about ourselves. The trick to facing rejection and not letting it ruin us is down to our attitude to rejection. If we see it as a form of failure it is more likely to affect us negatively than if we see it as a lesson to learn and an opportunity to grow and move forward.
Here are some tips for dealing with rejection:
1) Remind yourself that it is their opinion, Not fact, that has led to rejection. Don’t take it personally.
2) Rejection is a blessing in disguise. Be philosophical about it – now you are free to find someone who adores you and admires your loveliness and brings out the best in you
3) Consider all the reasons they were wrong for you. This helps to move on emotionally. Write a list if it helps.
4) See it as their loss. They obviously did not see how wonderful you really are!
5) Learn from it. Sometimes we receive constructive advice and this can be used to improve upon ourselves. It doesn’t mean we are defective but it is good practise to live and learn.
Rejection does not mean that there is something wrong with you. It just means, together, you weren’t right for each other. It’s okay to feel sad that things haven’t worked out but it’s not okay to blame yourself and look for the faults in yourself. Give yourself some time, believe that things happen for a reason and know that in a while you will be back to enjoying life. Don’t see rejection as confirmation that you aren’t good enough. Instead see it as a natural part of life and learn to love and nurture you.