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Short Stories {3} ~ Paradox Diffusion

Years after searching for God in psychedelics, Rumi had not wavered in her quest for knowledge. Without the benefit of a prescribed social role, she did what she wanted, when she wanted, which was to learn without regard for convention. Today, paradoxes were circulating around her mind, determined, she would not sleep without finding her answer.

At other times and in other places, Rumi would have been burned at the stake, hailed as a prophet, or stoned. The present time simply ignored her. Normal people treated Rumi as a public garbage can, light post, or stalled car, as an obstacle that could be moved but numbed by her surroundings.

“Take your pills NOW,” shouted the nurse down the corridor, from Texas’s renound mental hospital for the “insane.” Rumi rolled her eyes as Nurse Truchin’s sharp voice echoed and bounced off blood stained walls, she was sitting in room 23, her white washed room “gifted” to her by her parents, they could not cope with her cosmic mind anymore. Rumi had been in Senora Texas Mental Hospital for two weeks and she felt on edge, this was her first time in an asylum. Rumi paced up and down her abode, she had to take those dreaded sleeping pills or else they would force it down her throat somehow. Reluctantly she calmly walked down the hallway and was handed her pill through the dorms pill shutter.

Rumi swallowed the pill. “Good, now go back to your room, checks are at 11pm, make sure you are in your bed or you know what will happen,” said Nurse Truchin coldly. Rumi said nothing, she would achieve nothing by responding and quietly returned to her room blocking out the screams from the room beside her’s.

Shutting her door, relieved, she lay on her bed staring at the white washed walls that had become her friend. What were paradoxes? How could two opposing propositions exist at the same time? The sleeping pills were making her more and more drowsy. Lonely and with a heavy heart she pulled the duvet above her head. “A paradox is a statement or problem that either appears to produce two entirely contradictory (yet possible) outcomes, or provides proof for something that goes against what we intuitively expect,” Rumi reiterated inside of her mind.

Hallucinating as she usually did on these pills, she saw imagery quite like her visions on magic mushrooms a few months ago. Warping geometric patterns danced in a trance with eachother as her eyes flickered going in and out of consciousness.

I will sleep on this Rumi decided in her mind drifting off into the astral planes.

Upon awakening her answer had arrived, getting out her notebook she wrote “Paradoxes lead you to God.”

On her day of release, after all this time pretending to act normal to get out of this hell hole of an asylum, Rumi saw Mrs. Truchin as “insane” and Mrs. Truchin saw Rumi as insane. Rumi quietly knew that duality breaks down into formless consciousness; she was sane in an insane world.

“I know one thing,” Rumi said to Mrs. Truchin as she left the asylum doors. “And that is that I know nothing.” Rumi remembered studying ancient Greek philosopher’s such as Socrates years ago. Mrs. Truchin took one bewildered look at Rumi and walked away. Rumi smiled to herself and smelt freedom once again, her taxi was awaiting to pass through the doors into the insane world.

Time is a construct of consciousness and in higher dimensions has no meaning. but, in the lower dimensions it is used to measure changes and in the multitudes of parallel timelines all simultaneously existing. Paradoxes melt into the all, Source, Brahman, Allah, whatever name you stamp onto formless ether.

~DiosRaw 01/04/21

The Human Family Crash Course Series {6} ~ Law Of Attraction {7} ~ The Vibration of Money

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our sixth topic is focused on «Law Of Attraction.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” ~ Nikola Tesla

Everything in life is energy, vibration and frequency, this is what quantum physics is revealing to us, occultists from ancient Egypt already knew this; we’re re-learning as a society. We are realizing that there are different rates of frequency. At the fundamental level, when we start to resonate with more of what we want, we’re able to create more of that in our life. To experience the law of attraction working in our favor we need to first observe the meaning we give things. Money only has the power that we give it through the meaning that we attribute to it. How is your relationship with money? Do you think in terms of abundance or lack? Do you save or do you have a habit of spending? Do you spend to soothe unresolved pain? Ask yourself these questions and see what comes to you.

Money to us represents some type of emotion. If we analyze from a higher perspective, the real goal of manifesting is the emotion that this amount of money will bring you. The emotion could be the freedom to go on holiday, it could be the security. There’s different emotions that money can bring. What is your goal of manifesting money? How do you want to feel? Choose activities in your life that bring you into the vibration of abundance. Repeat mantras such as “I have everything I need, I am abundant in all I do.”

A lot of times when we want something so much, we ironically separate ourselves from it, and that make us feel resistance in the present moment because that thing isn’t here now. We’re then creating from a place of lack, and by that, even if we get the money, by the time we get it, we’ve already conditioned ourselves to not be happy in the present. The universe never gives us what we want, it always gives us what we are. There’s a way to avoid all of that resistance.

If you FEEL the emotion first, you will create that inside yourself. The thing with abundance is that we can combine feeling in a certain way with the action that we’re taking. That’s why many say that if you are passionate about something, you will manifest even more of it. “Life reveals it’s secrets to those that dare to follow their heart.”

Realize that sometimes materialism gets in our hearts and then we become polluted, blind for what we currently have. When you start receiving signs, be grateful. Gratitude keeps you humble and can make you very aware of where you currently are in the vibration of money.

Everything begins to change once we change ourselves. So, what you can do is have this awareness: Money is energy, it’s an emotion. It’s something outside ourselves that works like a tool. It’s a byproduct of either the value we can bring to another people or of us doing our passion.

The goal isn’t really the goal. The goal is the emotion and the passion for how you prefer to be. And then you will empower yourself and take responsibility because money is a side effect of that goal. This simple awareness will start changing everything for you and then you can focus what really matters.

The words, thoughts, and emotions we have about success, money, and wealth directly affect whether we are in the stream of wealth and abundance. Money flows to those who work, who do so diligently, who finish their projects rather than just dream about them, and who put their time and effort into “highest and best” uses. Not only do we have to put in the work, we also need to vibrate on an abundance vibratory level in harmony.

Let us know how you attract financial abundance into your life below..

~Amber {DiosRaw}

The Human Family Crash Course Series {6} ~ Law Of Attaction {5} ~ Powers Of The Heart For True Love

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our sixth topic is focused on «Law Of Attraction.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

Love is not a temporary feeling or emotion; emotions and feelings alternate daily, true unconditional love is everlasting.. To love without expecting anything in return and letting the fruits of your actions float in the wind..

We know the heart is an essential organ within the human body. But do we understand the true power of the heart?

In the spiritual traditions of India, the heart is regarded as the doorway to our essential and ultimate nature, the Supreme Consciousness, what many in western philosophies refer to as the “seat of the soul.”

The true power of the heart is like a secret hidden in plain sight.

Science is learning what wisdom traditions throughout the world have passed down to use through the ages. Recent research at the Heartmath Institute in the U.S.A has shown that as our hearts become clear, filling with love and gratitude, miraculous things happen. Our heart rhythms shift, bringing the whole body into a new state of harmony.

Opening the heart reduces stress and relaxes the organs, producing positive effects that even offset the effects of aging. As you may know, stress is a killer, and the love and happiness we hold in our hearts have an opposite effect. Clear, loving hearts also engage the higher cognitive functioning of the brain and increase intuitive awareness.

Finding that it possesses a complexity that exceeds that of the brain, science is even exploring the heart as a second brain. The profound nature of the heart is another place where we can recognize that there is much more to life than most of us realize.

Once you have woken up to the infinite possibilities of the Law of Attraction and applied them to your love life, it could take a miraculous turn for the better.

Use Daily Manifestation Techniques For Love

The fundamental thing to do when you feel that there is room for more love in your life is to fill your thoughts and actions with nothing but absolute love.

By flooding your mind with feelings of positivity and love for yourself and those around you, your ability to love and be loved back can shine through to others. Find what you love and do that, you have all you need.

Be Grateful

Gratitude is another crucial aspect within the Law of Attraction, which can be key in helping to unlock the abundance of love that is waiting to bring colour into your world. Being grateful for all of the love that you are already blessed with in life, no matter how little this may be, is a sure way of encouraging a greater abundance of love into your life.

Love from the universe, the love you have for yourself, love for a partner, love for the things you enjoy, love for others; being thankful for so much love surely can only result in one thing– love, love, and lots more love!

In comparison to those who are looking to manifest love, people who are already in a long-term relationship should also try and take the time to gain a fuller understanding of the Law of Attraction and how it can help them to sustain or even save loving relationships. Again, gratitude can be vital in helping to achieve this.

Instead of focusing on the things that aggravate or upset us about our partners (as can happen in any relationship), choosing to focus on everything that you are thankful for in your significant other can be a simple but fantastic way in which to help keep the fire of your romance alive.

Clear your mind of any negative emotions and focus solely on all that you are grateful for in your relationship, the love you receive back can be repaid twice-fold.

Take Action Now And Manifest Love

With the liberating knowledge that you have the power to control every area of your life, love, like every other part of your life can be completely turned around for the better. You are the creator of your reality.

Instead of gazing enviously at the happiness of the loved-up couples around you, decide to take charge of your life and seize for yourself the true love and joy that is rightfully yours.

Remember to keep your mind and your heart open to the surrounding universe and all of the love in the world can be yours to treasure.

Your Intention Point

Your Intention Point is the part of you that the Universe directly responds to. In fact, it’s the epicenter of your energetic power, and learning how to tap into it can dramatically increase your manifestation potential.

Unfortunately, many people have an unbalanced Intention Point, because they haven’t yet found a way to bring their heart into an agreement. When your Intention Point isn’t balanced, you send out mixed signals about the reality you want to create, and your dream ultimately fails to manifest.

Fortunately, you can do a lot to positively influence your Intention Point. Doing this will send out a message to the Universe, a message that clearly and forcefully asks for what you want and deserve. Set your intention and stick to it.

There are multiple parts to the process of heart manifesting, all of which aim to balance the Intention Point and send out a coherent, powerful message that makes the most of the Law of Attraction.

~Amber {DiosRaw}

The Human Family Crash Course Series {6} ~ Law Of Attraction {3} ~ How To Clear Limiting Beliefs For Success

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our sixth topic is focused on «Law Of Attraction.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

“You limit yourself by reducing the number of viewpoints you see.” ~
Meir Ezra

“What you believe your future holds for you impacts your attitude, decisions and success.” ~ Maddy Malhotra

To identify your limiting beliefs, we seek to search for the origins of these subconscious concepts. Where do your restricting beliefs come from?

“It’s so important to identify beliefs.
Because once you identify [a negative belief], once you bring it into the light, you will see it doesn’t belong to you:

  • That it came from your parents;
  • It came from your family;
  • It came from your society;
  • It came from your friends.
    And you bought into it. But it isn’t yours.

Holding on to something that isn’t yours is called theft.

Don’t be a belief thief!
Let go of what isn’t yours.” ~ Bashar

And how do we go about emancipating ourselves from these beliefs we’ve carried along with us?

Your limiting decisions are playing hide and seek, out in the areas where you’re producing results that you don’t want.

Your limiting decisions have shaped and molded everything you do. They have prevented you from seeing opportunities and maybe even discouraged you from trying at all. Now is the time to bring them out of hiding. Once you do that, you have choice, you are the creator of your reality.

“We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience.” ~ Louise L. Hay

Here are some manageable tips for you ~

~ Write the limiting belief down. Follow your thoughts and emotions to discover the limiting beliefs that hold you back. Put them on paper and confront them. You might note how strong each belief is and what emotions they elicit in you.

~ Acknowledge that these are beliefs, not truths. Are you more interested in: defending your limitations to the death or achieving your goals and desires in life? As author Evelyn Waugh wrote, “When we argue for our limitations, we get to keep them.” You can choose.

~ Try on a different belief. Utilise your imagination and try on a belief that is aligned and resonates with what you want. It might be something like, “My finance issues in the past have taught me many lessons and I’m fully prepared to deal with anything that comes to me” Or, “Now that I’ve been in an unfulfilling relationship I’ve learned what to look for in a warm, loving partner.” You want to embody this new belief and feel how it feels.

~ Take different action. This might feel strange, however act as if your new belief is true. In other words, if you really are the kind of soul that radiates light, how would you act at gatherings? Would you beam smiles? If you really are capable and have learned an abundant amount from past financial difficulties, what steps would you take? If you really are the kind of person who eats nutritious and nurturing food, what will buy when going shopping?

If you avoid taking any steps based on your new belief, you will feed your old limiting belief. Taking action, even the smallest step, will help solidify the foundations of your new un-limiting decision. Your first steps don’t have to be perfect, just headed in the right place. And acknowledge yourself when you’ve taken that step, remember you are awesome.

Let us know below how you have untangled limiting beliefs in your existence here as a soul floating through this magical existence..

~Amber {DiosRaw}

The Human Family Crash Course Series {5} ~ Communication {9} ~ How Ego Reflects In Our Communication

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our fifth topic is focused on «Communication.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, “What else could this mean?” ~ Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes it can feel as we are in an ego minefield, a battle of the egos bouncing off of each other with beliefs and subconscious traumas reflecting off of eachother’s self-created identities.

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” ~ Ernest Hemingway

What Is Ego?

The ego is the mind’s identity of our own making, an identity that is false.
We are more than just the mind and the ego. Taking all the beliefs of what we are, beliefs about our personality, talents, and abilities, we have the structure of our ego. These talents, abilities, and portions of our personality will be attributes of our skills, but the mental construct of our “self” is artificial. This description might seem as if the ego is a static thing, yet it is an active and dynamic part of our personalities, playing a dominating role in creating emotional plays and dramas in the movie of our lives.

When we have thoughts about our self that we agree with we construct a self-image within our self-awareness. The kinds of thoughts that contribute to the structure are ~

~”I’m not good at making friends.”
~”I am intelligent.”
~”My mother thinks I am a failure.”
~”Nobody likes me.”
~”I am more aware than you.”
~”I have longer meditation sessions therefore I am more awake than you.”

The ego hides behind the “I” and “me” in those thoughts and statements about our identity. The ego can get in the way of having clear dialogue with others, it can ~

~Push people away from you
~Stop you from growing.
~Block love from coming into your life.
~Kill your happiness.
~Make you critical and irrational.

Gaining control of your ego is the best thing that you can do for yourself or else it will continue getting in the way of your relationships, your career, and your life.

How To Gain Awareness Of The Ego

It can be hard to see, because the ego shadows behind opinions that appear true, our attachment to the descriptions of our identity, and because we haven’t practiced looking.

You can get a glimpse of the ego by being aware of certain thoughts, similar to those listed above. The easier way to spot the ego is by the track of emotional reactions it leaves behind: Anger at a loved one, a need to be right, a feeling of insecurity in certain situations, feelings of jealousy that are unexplained, the need to impress someone, and so on. These emotions can be attributed to the false beliefs that comprise the ego. When first beginning to spot the ego, it is easier to see the symptoms of emotions and drama, rather than the ego that caused it.

Letting Go of the Ego

Because of its multitude of aspects, it’s not practical to think that you can dissolve all of the ego at once. Much like a field that is overgrown, you don’t just lift the debris and throw it away – you cut off manageable pieces as you go along. The same approach is effective with letting go of the false beliefs that make up the ego. You begin by detaching from individual thoughts that reinforce it, then let go of beliefs, separating yourself from the false identity of your ego. There are many websites, YouTube channels and spiritual practices you can involve yourself in to learn more about this by taking a browse through cyberspace.

Feel free to let us know your thoughts on the ego and how it reflects in our communication below..

~Amber {DiosRaw}

~Infinite Expansion~

“The reason you’re trying to get more money, more sex, more knowledge, more love, more power, more fame, more pleasure, etc, and you can’t seem to get enough, no matter how much you get, is because deep down what you really want is to be infinite. You want an infinite expansion. It’s as though deep down your consciousness realizes that infinity is the goal. But you’re trying to accomplish the infinite through the finite, which will never work. You are like a fly trapped in a windowpane.

Your entire life has been one stifled infinite expansion.”

Source ~ https://www.actualized.org/insights?p=49

The Human Family Crash Course Series {5} ~ Communication {7} ~ How To Have Conversations With Your Family During Lockdown

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our fifth topic is focused on «Communication.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

The great Ram Dass said, “if you think you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family.”

For many of us our spiritual work, positive affirmations and zen-like state can quickly be disrupted by our family members. Sound familiar?

There are a few reasons for this~

~ Issues within our family often run on a deep, subconscious level; sometimes the issues run so deep that it is difficult to even comprehend where it all began. Being amongst family can easily trigger past memories or past events that can stir things up within the subconscious mind.

~ Family is ultimately there to teach us about unconditional love. Due to society and our egos, the blocks surrounding love that most of us carry around can be easily projected onto those we are nearest to. This often occurs in families and can manifest as feeling like you are never good enough or that certain family members have expectations for you that can never seem to be met.

~ We are highly connected to our families spiritually and energetically. In spirit form we all chose our family and agreed to work with the issues and dynamics that were destined to present themselves on our life path. Often families are souls that you have strong connections with from past lives and this adds to the weight and effect of their energy during times spent together and in general.

Here are some tips to make conversations between family members easier ~

~ Prepare yourself beforehand so you are spiritually and emotionally secure. If there is a certain family member that always push your buttons, or just being around your family seems to cause you stress, it may help to recite mantras and cleanse your aura or energy with sage. Anything you can do to raise your vibration and keep your energy positive and light will aid you. It may also be beneficial to visualise ahead of time your family gathering going smoothly and beautifully and putting good vibes out there before the event.

~Mantras. You may want to create a little plan or have a mantra ready to go if you find yourself confronted or triggered by a certain family member.

~Family issues run so deep that sometimes it is better to just let them go. While some analysis and reflection is good, eventually you have to learn to accept things just as they are. Sometimes it is really through accepting and unconditionally loving your family that true healing and awareness can start and you can begin feeling at peace in their presence.

~Some people don’t want to understand and can’t understand and that is ok. Sometimes things are better left unsaid. This doesn’t mean that you need to lie or hide who you are behind a mask, but leaving out certain details with family members who you know are not going to understand or be understanding can help keep things peaceful and can make things feel less stressful and agitated.

~It may also be helpful to remember that everyone is just doing the best they can at their level of consciousness.

~Know yourself. If you find yourself getting triggered or upset with comments made by a family member, try your best to stay neutral and keep your vibration positive and loving. Don’t be tempted to then fight back or get angry, you know in your heart what is true and you don’t need to affirm yourself to others. You know yourself.

~Take a deep breath. Focus on either changing or leaving the conversation altogether. If you do feel the need to put your foot down, try to assert yourself with calmness and without being defensive.

~Judgments. When you judge others for their judgements or respond with aggressive energy, you are further deepening the trigger points. Even if you can’t respond with loving kindness completely, the intention to try can make a profound difference.

Feel free to let us know below any ways you deal with conversations within your family..

~Amber {DiosRaw}

The Human Family Crash Course Series {5} ~ Communication {6} ~ How To Stay Focused During Video Conferences

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our fifth topic is focused on «Communication.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

Remember a time when zoom calls were new. We used to get so excited about logging on, seeing people and having these work conversations over the internet. And three months later, well, they suck. I think most of my days are taken up by video conferencing. We are still working from home and for me sometimes there are 5-6 video conferencing calls a day back to back. It’s tough so I have recently spent a lot of time figuring out how I can survive these long conference calls.

Here’s how you can stay focused on engaging through these calls. I hope these tips can be helpful for all of you:

Tip 1: Make it easy to stay focused
Tip 2: Show the other person that you are focused. This will help you stay focused.
Tip 3: Be prepared for the challenging calls.

Tip 1: Make it easy to stay focused
I have realised that focus for me is a very big issue on days when I am tired or when I have too many calls back to back. So I started thinking about why this is happening and I realised that one of the first reasons was there were too many distractions. So obviously for me the first solution was to remove all of these distractions. I put my phone out of sight so that I can’t see that. I removed the clutter from my desk. I cleaned up my digital desktop. This might come handy especially when you are sharing your screen with people, it’s nice to have your desktop clean. Have only tabs which are relevant for the meeting opened in your browser. Position the documents which you are referring to or reading from in the centre so that it seems you are looking at your camera when you are talking. Sometimes when I am talking and I need to look at my notes, I move my notes on the top centre of my screen so that it looks like I am looking at the camera while I am also looking at the notes at the same time. Even if your environment is very quiet, having your earphones on while you are working can help you focus on your work. It can specially come handy when there are more than one people working out of the same home, just a wall apart. Always have a glass of water available with you and mute yourself on calls when you are trying to drink. Also pro-tip have a lid on that glass of water unless you want to spill water on your laptop. Trust me I am speaking from experience. Avoid drinking any carbonated soda or spring water on calls because those bubbles will come back in the form of a burp on the call. If you notice your eyes are getting tired, play around with different steups and brightness on your laptop.

Tip 2: Show the other person that you are focused. This will help you stay focused.
Eye contact is everything. Look into the camera when you are talking when you are being authoritative and when you want to make a point because that looks like you are looking at the other person. Make sure that your computer is actually lifted because if you are on a laptop. You want to make sure that your eye level is where the camera is and that’s why keeping few books under your laptop may be beneficial. Put a little sticky note at the top of your laptop near your camera with a smiley face so that it kind of reminds you to look at the person when you are looking there. Oftentimes when you watch people on the camera and they don’t really realise that you are watching them, the face changes look like something focused on beyond the screen and this makes a huge difference when it comes to communication. One of the things that we usually forget is that when we are on these calls, our heads are quite close to the cameras and so people can tell when you are looking over or looking at text messages on your phone. In real life you are never that close to people so can get away with a lot more. But when you are online, it is difficult to get away with it. The message it sends is that hey, I am not focusing on you so don’t have to focus on me and hence there is a disconnect. Think of the camera as a magnet and when you do look away and you will, like you are going to look at the clock to see what time it is or you are going to look down on your notes to refer something and that’s okay, just make an effort to keep going back at thee camera and to maintain your presence in the meeting. If you think your eyes and the camera have a magnetic connection then you will keep going back to that. Sometimes telling people why you are looking away is a way of being polite and letting them know that you are still a part of the conversation.

Tip 3: Be prepared for the challenging calls
We have all been in them. We have all survived to tell the tale. Not all our calls are created equal. Some are really challenging and some are a breeze. It is the way it is because you are interacting with different people on different topics in different scenarios all those kinds of things. It may be the way the person is speaking or maybe their internet connection is consistently bad and so it’s hard to hear them, whatever that is, you know while going in who those challenging counterparts are going to be. If you can anticipate that, that will help you lower your expectations and manage your stress better. Another way is to not forget your listening skills. I have some typical tips which might help like :

  • Set an intention. This means think about why you are listening and what the outcome might be for the conversation. What is the purpose of your listening. Are you listening to learn something new or you are listening to find out someone’s instructions, whatever it is, have that in mind.
  • Use confirmation language when you are listening. That is especially important in these calls because if you are on mute all the time, then people really do not know that you are listening. So unmute yourself, ask a question, use some reflective language, confirm something that they said just to let them know that you were listening.
  • Finally if you are totally distracted and someone is going on and on and on then practice shadowing. Shadowing is when you are listening to somebody and in your head you are repeating every single word they say. It’s like forced focus, you can’t think about anything else because you are using all of your energy to repeat what they said.

So those are three tips on how to stay focused during video conferencing. These endless video conference calls have to be made easy because it seems like we will be doing them for a long while now. Also don’t forget to give yourself breaks. Stand up, walk around the house, drink some water. Also remember that the other person on the call may be going through the same thing. They may also be tired of the calls one after the other. You can help them out by being focused and engaging.

If you have any additional tips on how to stay engaged, please do share in the comments section. We always love to hear from you. If there are any questions you would like us to address, please feel free to ask us and we will try to answer them as best as possible.

~Garima {Empress2Inspire}

Guest Posts {11} ~ Power Of Atomic Growth

~This is a guest post from Praveen ~ http://empatheticalmind.com~

A bottle with a small nozzle lets you drink more water than a jug with a wide opening.
If you want to achieve more, do it consistently, little by little.
Focus on atomic starts than galactic beginnings.

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~To guest post feel free to share over your post by going to this blog’s connect page to find my email.~

The Human Family Crash Course Series {5} ~ Communication {4} ~ How To Win In A Virtual Workplace

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our fifth topic is focused on «Communication.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

Virtual workplaces, in which employees operate remotely from each other and from managers, are a reality, and will become even more common in the future. There are sound business reasons for establishing virtual workplaces, but their advantages may be offset by such factors as setup and maintenance costs, loss of cost efficiencies, cultural clashes, isolation, and lack of trust. Virtual teams and telework are examples of such arrangements, but they are not appropriate for all jobs, all employees, or all managers. To be most effective in these environments, managers need to do two things well:

~Shift from a focus on time to a focus on results
~Recognise that virtual workplaces, instead of needing fewer managers, require better supervisory skills among existing managers.

If you’re like most people today, you are facing a whole new set of challenges around how to manage your workload, share ideas and build relationships while working remotely. It’s not just about the work. You will also have to learn how to maximize socialization between your boss, colleagues and customers. Step up. This is your time to shine. Never ever in your life have your environment been so conducive for working. No travel time. No nagging work colleagues. Your own space. Access to unlimited food and drink, no one is judging how many times you made the trip to the coffee machine or snackbar. I mean what else do you want? Fully embrace this moment to make sure that you come out on the top. I mean what better time to surf when everyone else is coasting?

Here are a few ways to set the stage effectively and increase your impact ~

You need to be ready to work a little harder to communicate. Think of it like commuting. Back when we were going to the office, you had this commute time to prepare for things transitioning from your home life to your work life. Those boundaries are no longer there, I understand. So it is easy to feel like your home life and work life have kind of blended together. If you really want to fully take advantage of this moment here’s few tips:
~Make sure when you are talking in these virtual meetings, that you are being concise and powerful. You really want to make sure you are organised and you really don’t want to be that person who everybody wishes would just log off. In order to do this well, you have to plan ahead.
~Make attempts to connect with the people in your meeting after the call. Are you setting up coffee chats or are you setting up virtual happy hours. Doing this is very important to maintaining relationships with people in your meetings because you may not have that much time to talk to them during your meeting.
~When you are interacting with the team on zoom, keep your videos on, make sure your head and shoulders are visible on the calls. Also remember to smile often to let people know that you are still part of the conversation and not feel like they are speaking with an expressionless statue.

~Be responsive. When people can’t see you, they don’t know if you are working, and what you are working on so I think it’s more of the old “Out of sight and out of mind concept”. Nowadays, it’s not so much about what you are doing but who knows what you are doing. You have to be constantly interacting. I have noticed that people who I work with and have a high responsibility stake and the ones who are most responsive when I communicate with them. They know they need to be responsive. Sometimes it is more of an individual contributor who knows what they are doing and not so worried about their communication and takes them longer to get back. We need to remember that the higher we move up the more our jobs rely on communication. Here are a few tips :
~If you are going to be away from your seat, put an on break reply to the emails or messages you get. Let your team know you are taking a break.
~Send an email acknowledging someone’s request or email. It is good etiquette. This shows you are in the loop and you are responsive. As the tasks are being completed, let them know.

~Do what you say you will do. In our virtual workplaces it may be a little bit easier to drop the ball on things because you are not seeing your coworkers walk by your desk, things may not be front and centre, there are a lot of other things on our mind these days. So it’s a lot easier to hide. We need to make sure that we are really on it. I think some workplaces have a lot of pressure even when we are working from home, the intensity and urgency is pervasive. But for important but not urgent tasks, you need to create that sense of urgency yourself so that you do not become lazy about it. So here’s a tip~
~Know where your action item list is. We all have our things to do but do you know where yours is? Put it on your calendar. Do not have multiple to do lists. Get that piece figured out.
~Set up regular meetings with colleagues and stakeholders and people who help you stay accountable and stay on track.
~Keep your promises. If you tend to promise too much, maybe make an effort to manage expectations.

It takes a little hard work to be successful. So don’t coast. Remember the universe is bending in your favour. It is time to reach up and grab the opportunity. We are all going to come out of these cocoons like perfect communication butterflies successfully navigating the future of our crazy world. We would love to know about your communication and workplace hacks for succeeding in this virtual world. Please share.

~Garima {Empress2Inspire}